The Sweetness of Singleness

Yes, singleness is sweet. I said it, and I’m experiencing it. Honestly, I used to be so preoccupied with the desire for marriage—which is still beautiful—but by God’s grace, I’ve learned to be content in this precious season of being single, even as I look forward to the next.

I started to view my single season as something I would never get back. This is true because once I become a wife and mother, I will always (by Jesus’ mighty name) be a wife and mom, which is a beautiful thing.

So, I began to ask myself: What can I do in my singleness that I can’t do in marriage? Or, better yet, what can I do now that might be harder to do in marriage?

Because honestly, just as you’ll never get back your teenage years or your twenties, you’ll never get your single years back. So, enjoy them! This mindset—or revelation—clicked for me last year (shoutout to my lovely mother and mentors for reminding me of this). Since then, I’ve been on a personal journey to ask married and single women around me what their favorite thing about being single is/was—and I’ve been living it.

Here’s what I gathered:

• Freedom to travel
• Independence in decision-making
• Don’t have to check anyone’s schedule to make plans
• Uninterrupted time with God
• Serve God with your all
• Focus on your healing
• Don’t have to cook for anyone
• Your space is exactly how you want it
• Invest more time in your friendships
• Date yourself (try new restaurants, go to the movies, visit museums)
• Learn more about and develop yourself
• Spontaneously explore (your own city or new places)
• Pursue passions and interests (learn to play piano, draw, create)
• Don’t need permission to do anything
• Sleep (and wake up) anytime you want
• Play your music as loud as you like (my personal addition 🤭 Be mindful of your neighbors, of course—unless you have a house, then blast it, lol).

As you can see, the recurring theme is the freedom and independence this season offers to explore and become the woman God has called you to be. This is the most time you’ll ever have to yourself in your life, so make the most of it.

Of course, being single doesn’t mean you’re accountable to no one or that you’re isolated—community still matters. However, it does mean you have more independence. When you’re married, your life directly impacts someone else; it’s no longer just “I,” but “we.” While there’s certainly beauty in “we,” there’s also beauty—and necessity—in being an “I” too.

So many married women look back and wish they had enjoyed their single seasons more. It’s like that saying: “You don’t know what you have until it’s gone.” So, my single sisters, let’s be kind to our future selves and make the most of this season, okay?

Each day is one that the Lord has made, so let’s enjoy this season as He has given it. With that same joy, we’ll embrace the future ones He brings.

Imagine this: God is in the kitchen cooking up the best meal for your life. He’s set a delicious appetizer in front of you, but you’re so focused on the main course and dessert that you don’t enjoy the satisfying sustenance He’s given you now. God knows you’re hungry, so He’s provided a delicious appetizer to enjoy while you patiently wait for the main course—and the dessert will come in time.

This philosophy applies to any season of waiting—whether it’s marriage, motherhood, a promotion, or something else. Enjoy what you currently have, even as you eagerly look forward to what’s to come. It will come. And when it does, you’ll enjoy it fully, just as you’re enjoying the stage you’re in right now.

There’s beauty in each season—singleness, marriage, and motherhood—so be present in whichever one you find yourself in. You’ll never get back this specific moment in time. As my mom once told me: “You’re not married and you don’t have kids. This is the time to think about yourself and be selfish.”

So here’s to being selfish (in moderation, of course). And in all of this, remember to submit your singleness to God—that is the ultimate key to sweetness.

“This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.” – Psalm 118:24 ESV

With love,
Rebecca ❤️

P.S. Anyone who knows me knows I love LOVE. So while I’m making the most of this season, future husband, please don’t delay, okay? Thank youuu—I’m ready for you! 🤗 #enjoyingeveryseason